What do you want to be known for?
I had recently subscribed to a newsletter, in which Nikhil Krishnan, runs an interesting experiment. He asks a question every week and asks his subscriber to respond. In the next week, he publishes the best answers for the question. Think it like Quora run over email for a small set of audience.
One of the fascinating question he had recently asked is:
How do you want your legacy to be remembered? In other words, what do you want to be known for?
David Brooks calls this as the Eulogy Virtues. What kind of eulogy you want to be read in comparison with the other key virtues, which we all give priority to: Resume Virutes, that makes us employable or earns money.
This is my attempt to answer this question:
I want to be remembered as an awesome dad.
Stoically, I am aware that I cannot influence any other person in my life. Even my son. But I can control only my actions and my behaviour. I am not striving for my son’s audience in me to show my awesomeness. I have been bestowed by a great set of parents and lucky to have lovely spouse. So I simply want to be the best of myself in whatever amount of time possible to my son and to my family.
My dad has been a huge influence on me. I have been a son, who went through the phase of resisting to see his values, fighting with his views in my teenage and slowly respecting & embracing his views and values. So, if I have some iota of influence in my son in the future, I hope I am remembered as a fond and a loving person.